This week I got to hang out with some old friends that I haven’t been able to see in a long while. Even as it rained heavily throughout the day I was still super exited to meet them after so long.
We sat around the table and talked and laughed until our sides hurt. We shared our hurts and struggles freely and received advice and warmth. With a lot going on in my life right now, especially this week, it felt great to get together with the friends I had made so many years ago and receive their counsel. It was fun to hear what they were going through to and to catch up on what we were all up to.
Meeting with Lady Red and Lady White helped me notice how much alike we are. We are all the oldest sibling in our respective families. We all have grown up in Asian households. We also struggle with our responsibilities, spoken or implied, around our respective families.
Now I’ve noticed these things before, how similar we are. Naturally, we have our differences in circumstances but it felt comforting knowing that I wasn’t the only one struggling with similar situations.
We all worry about our families and our futures. As female’s who identify themselves as Asian, we carry a lot of expectation and struggles on our shoulders. We often struggle silently for a variety of personal reasons. All of us come from different backgrounds and histories but we still feel strongly for one another.
I love both Lady Red and Lady White with all my heart and our meeting this week was as refreshing as the rain. Being in their presence was like standing in the rain, letting the drops of water wash over you, cleaning off the unnecessary dirt. It was as if I hit a reset button on my week and am better equipped to deal with the coming struggles I have to get through.
Thank you, Ladies, from the bottom of my heart.
The Lady Black