How Introverts Make Friends!
So, as an introvert I can say with a good amount of certainty that we indeed have friends. That might come as a surprise to some people. How do we have time to make friends when we are so busy contemplating life’s problems? While I can say we don’t have droves of people following us but we do tend to have a small group of friends that we keep close to us.
Being an introvert, everything you do takes a certain amount of energy. Anything that costs too much energy to maintain we tend to cut out of our lives. So if an introvert considers you a friend, it means that you are worth the energy to make the relationship work.
That being said, I made a new friend.
In just a semester (that’s got to be a world record in introvert friend making) I’ve made a friend of my very own. This weekend she’s moved from close acquaintance to a bona fide friend and it’s a really good feeling.
After High School and my old friends moved on to college, I thought that I wouldn’t make any more close friends like they were. I had come to terms with living as an old woman hermit living in the old house on the corner never having a husband or any family left to call my own. To be honest I didn’t think that I would be able to fully trust myself to someone like I did with my close friends.
Thankfully, I was wrong…about making friends anyway.
Sure, it’s hard for us introverts to let the real us show but it isn’t impossible. My new friend and I are more alike than I thought but we area also different enough to learn from each other. We each have something to bring to the table. Sure we don’t agree on everything but we respect each other and have a good time with each other.
I know this might not be as interesting as some of my other journals but this is a journal and this is where I write my thoughts and experiences. And this is the awesomeness experience I’ve had all week.
Long story short, if you are friends with an introvert…awesome. You understand the deep friendship that we have to share. And know that, even if we don’t always show it we really appreciate you. Also, thanks you for dealing with our aloofness.
So if you are an introvert there out there, hold strong. You’ll find someone out there who will put up with your moods and frequent contemplations. Don’t give up! You’re next best friend could be just down the road.
I’m so happy for you, Aplabw!! (And, contrary to your expectations, I enjoyed reading about your experience!)
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Thank you very much!